The Definition of Motherhood

by Amanda on April 25, 2012

The following post is from Amanda of OhAmanda.com and Impress Your Kids:

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What is motherhood?

This morning, motherhood was getting up early to make a cup of milk for my son, carry him (chugging his milk) on my arm backwards while I lugged my computer into my closet to write a blog post. Then letting him lay on my lap while he reads a Nemo book and I write.

Sometimes, motherhood is walking upstairs four times in one hour to tuck your son in again.

Motherhood is making oatmeal every single day for breakfast.

It’s washing dishes three times a day and still having a messy kitchen.

It’s listening to knock-knock jokes that don’t remotely make sense.

Motherhood is dropping off your kids into the arms of another so you can work hard enough to keep your kids fed and clothed.

It’s sitting in the stands in rain or shine while your kid gets all the applause.

It’s keeping track of other people’s shoes, coats and backpacks when you can’t even find your keys.

It’s making dinner five times slower so your daughter can learn to cook.

It’s getting up early to have a little quiet time because once your kids are awake, you never even go to the bathroom alone.

It’s is filling your kids’ plate with healthy food and then forgetting to eat breakfast yourself.

When you are a mom, you pour out yourself in ways you don’t do for anyone. You give up selfish ambitions. You set aside goals and dreams. But the interesting thing is, those giving-ups? the pouring outs? become your new goals. For some reason, you desire to do more for your kids, to give them the best.

Oh, there’s still days of selfishness. Who am I kidding?! I struggle with selfishness on a minute-by-minute basis! Good moms still have their blood boil when their kids whine for the 50th time in a minute. But for some reason your desires shift when a baby is put in your arms. As much as you want to be-all-that-you-can-be, there is something inside of you that pushes and gives and raises up your children.

Be encouraged, mama!

It’s those little sacrifices, those small acts of giving, the daily choices and yes, even sometimes drudgery that makes your kids take notice. It’s not the big vacations, the perfectly organized home, the fabulous homeschool choices, the creative craftiness or the perfect discipline–it’s the small things that make the most difference. It’s the thing that makes big football players and hip musicians thank their moms first when they win an award. It’s the reason people wave and say, “hi mom!” behind a news camera.

Moms do the tiny, but it becomes big in the life of a child!

What is Motherhood to you?

Amanda is a stay-at-home mom of two who blogs at OhAmanda.com and Impress Your Kids. In her former life, Amanda was a Children’s Pastor — overseeing, organizing and developing ministry for kids in nursery through middle school, but now that she is a mom, her “skills” are used up on her kids!

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  • http://impressyourkids.org lmilla

    gorgeous, Amanda.  I’m not doing it well right now, but this is a reminder of what I’m in it for.  thank you for your wise words!

    • http://impressyourkids.org lmilla

      “It’s listening to knock-knock jokes that don’t remotely make sense.” And this is completely motherhood to me right now. ;)

  • http://www.maxonfamily.blogspot.com/ elizabeth

    motherhood is willingly (and without grudge) caring for the flock you’ve been entrusted with {1 peter 5:2}…boy is that hard sometimes…but such a high calling…thanks for the encouragement!

    • Jess

      Never thought of this verse in the context of parenting before! But that really spoke to me today. Thanks for sharing!

    • http://impressyourkids.com ohamanda {impress your kids}

       Yes! Such a fabulous verse for motherhood. We should get t-shirts! :)

  • Sarah Poling

    Motherhood is reading a book without even looking at the pages..you have read it enough to quote it perfectly.

    It is snuggling a little one who can hardly keep her eyes open, yet insists she is NOT tired and it is NOT bedtime, but says sing it again, one more time, and you do because the promise in the lullaby is God’s Word and what’s 5 more minutes awake when you might truly impress Biblical truth on a little heart. 

    It is knowing your kids intimately and helping correct and encourage appropriate behavior in the grocery store- even when others are staring at you and acting like you should do it another way… it’s not squashing the heart, but building it up ….

    • http://impressyourkids.com ohamanda {impress your kids}

       This put tears in my eyes! Love hearing your “definitions”! I can quote so many books by heart… ;)

  • Deanna

    Thank you for this encouraging post. Perfect timing!

    • http://impressyourkids.com ohamanda {impress your kids}

       You’re welcome! :)

  • Shonda

    Wow, this speaks to me.  Thanks!

    • http://impressyourkids.com ohamanda {impress your kids}

      We all need to be encouraged every now and then, huh? :)

  • Amy

    Were you at my house yesterday?  You described my life perfectly. 

    We don’t do it for the praise…we do it because we LOVE our precious little children more than we ever knew we could.

    • http://impressyourkids.com ohamanda {impress your kids}

      “more than we ever knew we could” TRUE. And that going upstairs 4 times to tuck in my son? I think it was 6 times tonight. *sigh*  :)

  • http://profiles.google.com/angielilavois Angelina Lilavois

    I love this, and it is so relevant to me right now. I need to be reminded that my life is NOT for ME right now, it’s for my kids. God gave them to me, and I need to enjoy them, and honor them, and show my love for them. Thank you for this so much! I’m going to share on FB.

  • Rwokeefe0301

    Wonderful encouragement for this season in my life.  Thank you so much.  It is always comforting to know that I am not the only one to feel this way.  Maybe I am not crazy after all!

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