Overnight Success: How to Be a More Patient Mom

by Mandi on April 30, 2012

The following post is from Kat of Inspired To Action:

patience

source: ~ggvic~


Have you ever been grumpy with your kids? Have you ever used a tone of voice you regretted? Have you ever overreacted? Have you ever wished you were a more patient mother?

If not, you might want to move along. For all you humans reading this blog, I’m going to now share with you a tip that will help you transform into a radically more patient mother – overnight.

That’s right! Immediate success! Like an infomercial! Except better!

The Secret Tip

Here’s the secret tip. Go. To. Bed. Earlier.

Okay, stop rolling your eyes now. I realize you wanted another tip. Something…easier.

Sorry to disappoint, but while going to bed is hard for the toddler in us, it really does have a massive impact on our parenting.

Mom #1

A well rested mother has more energy.

A well rested mother has more focus.

A well rested mother is more productive.

A well rested mother is more fun.

A well rested mother is, yep, more patient.

Mom #2

A tired mom is…tired.

A tired mom floats from one task to another, never getting much finished.

A tired mom wastes time…being tired and pseudo resting (i.e. tv, internet, magazine reading).

A tired mom is too tired to be much fun.

A tired mom is grumpy.

Imagine…

Now, imagine with me that you’re 5 years old. You’re SOOOO excited to play with your new doll and you want to have a tea party complete with stuffed animal guests and real. water. tea. And paper sugar cubes even! But it would be ever so much more funner if Mama would play with you and use her fancy accent and pretend to be Lady Fancy Schmancy and drink with her little pinky up like she sometimes does and… and…

So you run to fill the tea pot and ask Mommy.

Mama!! Mama!! We’re having a tea party with real. water. tea!!!… and my animal friends said it wouldn’t be the same without Lady Fancy Schmancy and…”

WHOOPS!!! You trip and spill the water all over the wood floors.

In that moment, which mom would you want?

Choose Your Own Mom…

Well rested mom (in full Lady Fancy Schmancy accent): “Looooks liyke we’ve had a smawl spill. Let’s get mowre tea, shall we?”

Tired mom: “Ugh!! Again? You have GOT to be more careful! I can’t play with you now, I need to clean this mess up.”

And Your Kids?

Which mom do you think your children want? Which mom do they deserve?

Who do you want to be?

Rest is a simple thing can do to radically improve her attitude, health and perspective.

Granted there are seasons of sleep deprivation, but if we’re reading blogs or watching tv, we have time to get more rest.

Rest is more important than relaxation. And the more rest we get, the less relaxation we need.

I Realize It’s Not Easy

I know it might seem like a sacrifice to go to bed earlier. To give up a favorite TV show or catching up via Facebook with our 3rd grade #4 best friend that we had actually forgotten about until she sent that friend request and then Oh. My. Goodness!!! It’s So. Good. To. Catch. Up. With. You!!!

A Classic Example For The Ages

Really? That’s more important than rest? I’ve done it just as much as anyone. In fact, one time I stayed up WAY too late examining the facial expression of Faith Hill to see if she really was mad that Carrie Underwood won the CMT award.

Seriously. I watched the YouTube videos, read the comments and performed my own behavioral profile based upon my research. Or something like that.

And I don’t even listen to country music!

I was not the most amazing mom the next day. Thanks Faith.

I Double Dog Dare You

So my challenge to you is to determine how much sleep you really need to be your best.

Because our kids…they deserve our best.

Kat blogs at Inspired To Action, a site dedicated to helping moms develop the habits and skills they need to effectively manage their homes and raise children who are prepared to change the world. Kat loves music, running, technology, Jesus and Tex-Mex food. Not necessarily in that order.

  • http://acountrygirlinthecity.blogspot.com/ Shannonvanderkooi

    Thank you writing this. From one tired, sometimes grumpy mom to another, sometimes the recognition of my attitude is enough to change it. And this helped me recognize this today.

    • http://www.inspiredtoaction.com/ Kat @ Inspired To Action

      You are very welcome!!

  • roadtohobbiton

    Kat – you are SO right on with this. I discovered this myself a few years ago – I MUST have 8 hours of sleep to be a good mom. That means that the dishes and laundry don’t always get done on time, and I’m forever wishing I had more “me” time, but I’ll have all the ME time I need when the kids are in college. You can’t miss this precious time.

    • http://www.inspiredtoaction.com/ Kat @ Inspired To Action

      What a wise and sobering perspective. The days are long but the years are short!

  • http://twitter.com/HappyLHomemaker Happy Lil Homemaker

    This is such a great point, not just for sleep but other things that might take your attention or patience.

  • Chksngr

    While I agree completely, its easier said than done…i follow my children to bed only by however long it takes me to brush my teeth, take out my contacts and wash my face….but one or the other wakes me nearly every night (disruption!) and my husband snores (can’t get back to sleep). I get up at 5:30 in order to exercise and read my Bible – also important for a sane mommy – before I go to work each day. Rest is like my nirvana….

    • http://www.inspiredtoaction.com/ Kat @ Inspired To Action

      It is definitely a challenge and there are seasons when sleep comes more easily. I hope that season comes for you soon!

  • http://www.anothernewseason.com Donna S

    I needed this – I’ve been trying to go to bed earlier, it’s a consistent struggle – I always think that late at night is the perfect time to have mommy time or do client work but it turns me in the the big bad mommy in the morning. It’s not a good trade off.
    Thank you!

  • http://impressyourkids.com ohamanda {impress your kids}

    SO TRUE. When I plan (yes, PLAN) to go to bed by 10:15 I am SUCH a better mom the next day. But when my kids drag me out of bed? Be prepared for a rough day.

    Wonderful post as always, Kat!

  • Raquel_bunn

    I feel so guilty right now!

  • http://overcomingbusy.com/ OvercomingBusy

    Um…since I am staying up late reading this, I guess I should go to bed now! You are right. I am so much better….everyone is so much better when mama is well rested!

    • http://lifeyourway.net Mandi @ Life…Your Way

      It’s much easier to stay up late than it is to go to bed early, and the worst part is I find myself staying up later and later the more tired I get. It’s this horrible cycle!

  • Alleysnoop

    Wow. That was an eye opener for me-and something I sure needed to hear!! Thanks so much for getting straight to the heart. :)

  • Stephanie

    So true! People always laugh at me because I’m 30 and go to bed at 9pm every night, even on weekends. By getting enough sleep I am able to wake up early in the morning without an alarm and well rested. I get some alone time in the morning and because I’m full of energy, I am able to get all my housework done, workout, cook, and play with our 3 kids. But of course, I do give up TV and internet time so that I can achieve this! This is a great post and I like the humor in it.

  • http://www.justjosanne.com Josanne

    I SOOO agree with you, AND, I hope you don’t mind me adding this to your own thoughts-getting the children to bed earlier makes a world of difference too! I rolled my eyes when my friend was putting her young school children to bed at 8:30. When I tried it for MYSELF, WOW!!! What a difference!
    Sleep really is important for all of us! Thanks for the reminder!

    • http://lifeyourway.net Mandi @ Life…Your Way

      I think this is a good point, Josanne — I think the reason a lot of us stay up latter than we should is because it’s quiet and we have time to unwind. Getting the kids to bed earlier (which is SO much easier when it gets darker earlier, LOL) is a good way to still have that time in the evening and get to bed earlier!

    • http://www.inspiredtoaction.com/ Kat @ Inspired To Action

      Great tip!!!

  • http://www.dietriffic.com Melanie | Dietriffic

    Awesome… I absolutely LOVE this post. Thanks for putting it all into perspective Kat.

  • Ruth

    Brilliant!! Wish I had this 27 years ago!!! However it’s no good looking back. I would agree whole heartedly. Great post!

  • Lauren

    Oh my gosh its like you have been in my house this week. I was seriously on the phone talking to my husband about how little sleep I got last night when I started reading this article and I told him about it and even he is laughing.

    I’m struggling so hard to be a good mother right now because of my lack of sleep. I have been struggling with insomnia for 2 years now and its sucking the life out of me.

    • http://lifeyourway.net Mandi @ Life…Your Way

      I’m so sorry, Lauren — I’ve experienced insomnia during pregnancy, and it’s horrible. I can’t imagine dealing with it for two years. :(

  • mama_rose

    thanks for writing this – i’m off to bed!

    • http://www.inspiredtoaction.com/ Kat @ Inspired To Action

      I’m glad it inspired you!

  • Michelle

    yes. Completely. Thank you!

    • http://www.inspiredtoaction.com/ Kat @ Inspired To Action

      You’re welcome Michelle!

  • http://simplyrebekah.wordpress.com/ SimplyRebekah

    Awesome. Just awesome!

    • http://www.inspiredtoaction.com/ Kat @ Inspired To Action

      Glad you liked it Rebekah!

  • http://twitter.com/bsiron Beth Siron

    So simple and so true. The funny part is that I’ve been working with my teen and tween to get to bed earlier for the same reason–they are grumpy without enough sleep. Thanks for the reminder that it applies to me too.

  • http://mylittledrummerboys.blogspot.com.au/ Trish

    Awesome advice I so needed to read.x

  • Samusomom

    It is so hard to go to bed at a decent time! I tend to revel in that “kid free” time and don’t want to go to bed, because that means it will end :( Selfish of me, I’m sure!

    • http://lifeyourway.net Mandi @ Life…Your Way

      I’m the exact same way! I think it’s our natural tendency, but then it
      backfires when we’re exhausted and snappy. Or at least I am, LOL!

  • Zgalozo

    i am so thankful that i read this…….thanks now i go to bed earlier………..

  • Ludicrousmama

    Bottom line – they should be WORTH it to us. Worth giving up a show, or turning off the computer a little earlier. Worth waiting to finish that book.
    Because Lady Fancy Shmancy won’t be invited to parties anymore in just a few short years. And while you’ll never regret missing the latest new reality show so you can take the time to help make yourself a more fun parent, you just might regret missing that quality time with your kid.

    • http://lifeyourway.net Mandi @ Life…Your Way

      Well said — thank you!

  • http://twitter.com/ElishaKemp Elisha Kemp

    Definitely needed to hear this thank you so much for sharing! I was really blessed with this post. 

    • http://www.inspiredtoaction.com/ Kat @ Inspired To Action

      I’m so glad it encouraged you!

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