Our Family’s Approach to All Things Easter and Spring-Related

by Mandi on March 22, 2012

easter-sunday

source: Kimber Photography


People often talk about two types of personalities — rule followers or rule breakers.

However, I tend to find myself caught between the two. I’m a nonconformist in many ways: I tend to find most a lot of what’s considered “good etiquette” silly, and there are plenty of rules and laws that I think are ridiculous. And, admittedly, I tend to drive about 9 miles per hour over the speed limit.

But there are some things that seem black and white to me. For example, I never cheated in school — or allowed others to cheat off of me — despite the peer pressure to do otherwise and the number of people who got upset with me. Cheating is wrong, period.

Easter as the Core of Our Faith

Similarly, I have pretty strong feelings about the observation of Easter.

In my opinion, Easter is the core of our faith, and it should be observed with reverence and awe. Bunnies, colored eggs and baskets full of gifts don’t fit into that equation.

So, our family simply doesn’t participate.

Well, I take that back. We do attend a family Easter egg hunt after church on Sunday, because I think those relationships trump my personal convictions. But within our family unit, we avoid them.

Of course, I love bunnies, bird nests and colored eggs as much as the next person, and I think they’re beautiful reminders of Spring and the birth of new life.

Balancing the Celebration of Spring & Easter

Am I telling you this to convince you to see things my way? Not at all! But if you’ve struggled with these same feelings and haven’t found a good way to balance the two, I want to share the approach we’ve come up with.

Depending on the timing of Easter, we spend a few weeks focused on Easter and a few weeks — before or after — on Spring.

  • We dye eggs, just not Easter eggs.
  • We eat Peeps, just not in Easter baskets.
  • We do spring crafts, but not as part of our Easter celebration.

And during the weeks immediately before Easter, we focus on the true Easter story — the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ.

Our Plan for This Year

This year, we’re using the Telling God’s Story curriculum and doing a four-week unit on Easter: Palm Sunday, the trial of Jesus, Jesus’ crucifixion and the resurrection. We’re focusing on that story in the weeks leading up to Easter. And then in the weeks following that celebration, we’ll focus on Spring!

Last year, I also shared a new tradition that we’re looking forward to including in our celebration again this year:

At 3 p.m. on Good Friday, we’re going to turn out all of the lights as symbol of Christ’s death on the cross. We’re then going to use candles rather than electric lights until Easter morning, when we’ll turn on the lights to celebrate His resurrection.

This is not the only way to celebrate Easter, of course, just the one that feels right to me!

If Easter is a part of your faith, how do you balance the observation of it as a religious holiday with the fun aspects related to Spring?

Mandi Ehman is the founder and publisher behind Life Your Way and the co-author of All in Good Time, as well as a wife and the homeschooling mom to four beautiful girls. She lives with her family on a little slice of heaven in wild, wonderful West Virginia and loves coffee, chocolate, easy meals, beautiful things and minimalist spaces.

  • http://www.momdropbox.com Audrey

    I like the idea of turning out the lights on Good Friday.  I’m sure that helps your kids understand the crucifixion.

    Easter is important to us as well as a religious holiday.  I grew up with Easter egg baskets and egg hunts, and my husband and I continue that with our kids.   

  • Ami w/AliLilly

    I completely agree! I’m a somewhat new Christian and I have a nearly 4 yr old daughter. This year especially I’m having a hard time with the balancing act of bunnies, eggs, candy and Christ. How do I really show her.  She loves Jesus, understands who He is, knows lots of sweet lil prayers.  That makes me so proud.  But how do I explain that we are not taking pictures with the Easter bunny because in all honestly I feel it’s disrespectful to the core of what Easter is. Just like you said.  Thanks for this post.  This helps me feel better about how I really feel.  My husband told me just before Valentine’s Day that he didn’t want the house all decked out in Easter eggs and bunnies as he thought it was disrespectful.  As a DIY decor blogger I freaked for a moment thinking ”WELL…..now what?” But he’s right, the more I thought about it he is right, YOU are right. Well, at least that’s how I feel.  In my opinion, you are right.  SO, I put together a post about Faith based crafts to do with your children.  I found a lot of great ideas, but if you know of any more I would love to hear! I also, like the lights out idea.  I would love for you to take a look.   

    http://alililly.blogspot.com/2012/03/10-faith-based-kids-crafts-for-easter.html

    • http://lifeyourway.net Mandi @ Life…Your Way

      Love these crafts — thanks for sharing the link…and your heart!

  • JD

    We are Orthodox Christians , so this isn’t a problem for us. We celebrate Lent, which leads up to Easter, which is a big, several hours at night event. Then on actual Easter Sunday, our church has a big church picnic with egg hunt, activities, and a lamb roast (many of the congregants are Greek). Some years “Western” Easter is the same as Orthodox Easter, but often they are a week apart. Red dyed eggs are a traditional part of the Christian celebration of Easter, and the baskets people use at Easter aren’t from the Easter bunny, they are made by folks who have been fasting for weeks and put them up front to be blessed by the priest after the main Easter service. (and, the baskets are not filled with just stuff for kids! They have nice cheeses, wine, candy, breads…all things that if following the fast as we are supped to, we haven’t been eating for like 40 days, so they are a real treat!)

    The conflict just isn’t there for us, because the church life is so strong.

    • JD

      I meant to say we haven’t been eating cheese, etc., not to imply we haven’t been eating at all, LOL!

    • http://lifeyourway.net Mandi @ Life…Your Way

      These sound like beautiful, poignant traditions — thanks for sharing!

  • dlm

    Hey, I like your use of candles and electricity to symbolize Christ’s death and resurrection.

  • Sharon

    This year I have had the feeling that I shouldn’t focus so much on the Easter baskets of toys for the kids this year. I have already bought them a little bit of easter candy and a toy each, but I think I’ll give then the baskets on a day other than Easter. I also think I’ll be more intentional about reading the Bible about Palm Sunday through Easter Sunday with my kids. I want them to know the importance of Easter and that it’s not just another holiday that we get gifts and play fun games. I also want to try to make something I’ve heard about called Resurrection Cookies. Here is a link to a website that talks about these cookies: http://www.annieshomepage.com/resurrectioncookies.html.  Thanks for sharing your feelings about Easter and helping me to be more intentional about how I’m teaching my kids!!

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